What “Titles” Describe You?

Writer. Partner. Motivational Provocateur. HEY!…did you catch that last one? yes, I actually have started calling myself that because I am striving to become one in my path to success and fulfillment.

It is a mouthful, but recently I watched a video on Instagram by financial guru Dan Lok. Dan has an Instagram content director who oversees the content and topics that are put forth for Dan Lok followers and anyone else interested in checking it out. This “SME” person shared some insight. One of the things he mentioned was how important it was to create a bio about yourself that is accurate and real (or as ‘real’ as one can be on social media).

My instgram account is marked ‘private’ so I can pick and choose who I want to follow and who I allow to follow me. My account is not all that important to anyone but me. It’s about my journey to self-improvement and better health as my shoulder (Bertha, remember her?) recovers and gets back in shape from shoulder surgery several months ago.

My bio has yet to post those “titles” I described at the beginning of this article, but I certainly believe those are my roles that I am and aspire to become. It is interesting to view when I see requests from strangers who want to follow me. Some titles are “mother of 2″….”CEO of my best self”….”Slutty & Successful”….and “Born to succeed, breed and conquer.” And no, none of them interested me enough to accept their requests.

I also noticed not all these “titles” match the photo listed on the Instagram account. Most show a picture of an individual smiling, maybe carrying a pet or with a trio of friends; another with a flritatious smile and revealing bosom, all tan and pretty, and another with just part of a very half-naked, sculpted physique only Donatello or Bernini would admire. Title and image create a visual impact to the viewer which will either gain a positive or negative reaction.

Yes, titles matter. They describe something about a person. CEO and Chariman. President and Owner. Her Majesty the Queen. 7-time Olympic Gold Athlete. They usually generate admiration and even inspiration for those of us who can only dream. Michael Phelps comes to mind when I think of Olympic Gold champion. I watched every segment he competed in.

This guy won 28 Olympic gold medals and is considered the most decorated Olympian of all time and a ‘success’. Why? Because he didn’t let limitations hold him back. At the age of 7, he was introduced to water and was “scared” of putting his head underneat the surface. So he learned to float on his back and inevtiably mastered the backstroke. One of many techniques he tackled to stretch and challenge his abilities to become the best.

He thought. He decided. He took action. He went for the title he believed he could earn. He paid a high price and that did not stop him because he set out to achieve what needed to be done to win the title of Olympic Gold Medalist. He achieved it and went after more. How’d he do it? 5 Things: Embrace Drills, Get in gear, Hit the weights, Rest & Recover and Train your brain.

“The superior man always thinks of virtue; the common man always thinks of comfort.” ~ Confucius~

How many of us have struggled with losing weight and staying healthy so we don’t go back and gain it all back? I am certain many of us have had the yo-yo effect of diets and exercising and even trying the latest trends to lose weight fast. With subtle advertising and subliminal gimmicks on infomercial programs that we watched many late nights while eating kettle popcorn or a bag of cheetos – many of us fall into that trap of wanting to lose the weight without sacrificing the comfort.

We so badly want to shed those pounds with a pill or supplement or “meals and snacks” but not have to exercise, sweat, and push our bodies to improve metabolism, burn calories, tone and strengthen.

We don’t like pain. If it takes too much effort, we whine about it. If it takes too much dedication or commitment, we procrastinate a little while longer.

We prefer comfort over inconvenience. It is human nature to seek comfort, ease and things that feel good. We don’t like to think about hard work, self-discipline and mastery over over-eating. It’s too difficult.

Today, we life our lives in a lot of convenience just at the click of a mouse. We can conduct billion dollar deals over the internet in record time. We shop online and things arrive at our door in matter of days or weeks. We have it way too easy.

And we wonder why we struggle with renewing our minds. Why we find ourselves fighting our inner strongholds because we cannot demolish the negative thoughts quickly enough. They’ve been there years and becamehabits.

“The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state…Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are.” ~James Allen~

James Allen is a famous British Philosopher who wroteAs A Man Thinketh which became his best well-known work when it was published in 1903. He had no idea just how well-loved that book would become for the rest of the world decades later as generations of people sought after becoming better, learned, articulate, generous individuals. He believe that our thought life eventually manifested into our reality.

We think what we become and as a result, what we project we attract. Whether this is good or bad depends on the situation and the outcome or results we want or don’t want. So if we don’t like the results our outcome we need to find a better solution.

Sometimes we need to change the title. If we’re carrying an invisible title that says “Poor self-image. Low self-confidence. No ambition. Complacent and easy-going” – maybe it’s time to kick things up a notch. Or kick it where it hurts!

The next time you see yourself in the mirror, ask you yourself, “What’s my current title? Is it accurate? Does it represent who I am?”

Writer. Partner. Motivational Provocateur. It’s what I am and what I will continue to become.


5 thoughts on “What “Titles” Describe You?

  1. Jon says:

    I appreciate all the suggestions for titles that may or may not describe me. They get me thinking about different things that I can do to be the person that I want to be and that to get what we want we must first be what we want to achieve. I would describe myself as compassionate. What title describes you the most and why?

  2. Coach says:

    This topic is very timely for me. I am working on a project that speaks to women in their 40s and I’ve been researching some areas that I should cover under this topic.

    Your post started pushing some ideas in my direction, so I agree with the fact that we attract what we project. If is amazing the titles you come across in social media in general. It appears that many persons fool themselves into denying that when they use these titles, which they are attached to day in and day out, that they begin to project them in their reality.

    The subconscious mind is a powerful tool and knows not the difference between reality and myth. Dwell on it enough and with enough feeling, whether it is true or false, it become you and you become it.

    I like your article and your website and will be sure to return to check out more. Keep up the good work.

  3. Stacie says:

    What a great article! I am not over 50 yet, but I am on my way, I am 46 and we all know that 50 is just around the corner.

    I couldn’t agree more with you on this. How we feel about ourselves is a direct reflection of how we represent ourselves. I tell myself every morning that it is going to be a great day, no matter how I really feel, and it helps with starting my day in a positive light and pushing me to have a successful day. (The fresh ground coffee may help a little too.)

    When I look at myself I see a successful prefessional line cook, some call me a Chef because the way I handle my self and my station at work, and I will accept that title too. I feel good about what I do and the food I prepare for each order, and trust me we serve a lot of food!

    The title does make a difference for sure too, I am the lunch manager, and to have my guys look at me and see a Chef, that makes me feel like I have earned it versus just being handed the title, and my title is very accurate.

    This article nails how you should talk to yourself, and how to get a handle on how you are percived as a person. This could help people that are under 50 as well.

    Thanks for the great read.


  4. Shalei67 says:

    I like Motivational Provocateur title I gave myself because I like to help others motivate themselves, I like to ‘provoke’ them to think without a box or lines, boundaries or limitations.

  5. Shalei67 says:

    Your positive comments only validate that my blogs are reaching an audience – at least the niche I am addressing to which is my age group. I am on a self-discovery journey of sorts with all the changes I have had to go thru (whether I liked them or not) and have had to make some difficult decisions and its through these experiences, I write about them on my website because there are so many out there that feel the same but either deny, ignore or avoid acknowledging their struggles. But the beauty of it is that struggle is a catalyst for change – and it can either take you forward or backward. Much success on your project, I would love to read more about it, let me know your website. Thanks!

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